EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

Recently I’ve been emotionally blackmailed by someone close to me. It’s manipulated me and killing me so. Firstly, I didn’t really care about it but as time flies the guilty feeling made me depressed and causes the battlefield of mind. This is not good at all. I browsed some of the emotional blackmail article and here is the conclusion :

=== Emotional Blackmail ===

When the people in your life use fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate you. It is a very powerful form of manipulation in which the person directly or indirectly threatens to punish you if you don't compile with how they want you to behave.

Some examples of things Emotional Blackmailers say are: "If you really loved me..." "After all I've done for you..." "How can you be so selfish..."

A form of blackmail that usually doesn't affect you directly, however makes you feel guilty if you do not do what the blackmailer wants.

Emotional blackmail often happens when someone refuses to be the blackmailer's boyfriend/girlfriend.

Emotional Blackmail often consists of crying, cutting themselves, or even as far as threatening to commit suicide.

If you are the one who emotionally blackmail someone, please stop it. Don’t ruin other people life just because you don’t feel secure about yourself. For the one who are emotional blackmailed by someone, just avoid him/her. Don’t bother for having him/her around you. He/she is just not the one.

Change the World!

Can you change the world by helping someone in need and having them do the same?

Has anyone ever done something for you that made a real difference in your life?

Are you in a position where maybe you are wanting to give to others?

Do you look around and see many people who are in need of assistance and want to help?

Think of an idea to change our world - and put it into ACTION! Any thoughts? :)

Start a revolution -- it begins with you!

The premise of the novel "Pay it forward" is one that any person can implement in his or her own life, at any time. The unconditional favors can be large or small. It doesn't have to be a big thing. It can just seem that way, depending who do you do it for.

It begins with doing a favor for another person--without any expectation of being paid back. Indeed one would request that the recipient of that favor do the same for someone else: ideally for three other people.

The pay it forward system is a very simple system based around a very powerful concept. :)

How to pay it forward?

The world can seem like an unfriendly, threatening place, yet we all want safety, health and happiness for ourselves and our loved ones.

How can one ordinary person -- you or me-- make a positive difference in this word?

One way is the practice "paying it forward".

While the steps might be simple, the outcome could change the world.

Be attentive wherever you are for opportunities to help someone.

Maybe you're in a restaurant and see someone who looks like they could use some kind stranger to pay for their meal.

You can change people attitudes about the world through your unobtrusive acts of kindness.

Do something nice for someone you don't know (or don't know very well). It should be something significant, and not for a person from whom you expect a good deed -- or anything at all, for that matter -- in return.

Spread the word. If the person thanks you and wants to "repay" you (that is, pay it "back"), let them know what you'd really like is for them to pay it "forward" --.

You'd like them to do something nice for three people they don't know, and ask those three people to do something nice for three more people.

The idea is to consciously increase the goodness of the world : Pay it forward.

When you notice that somebody has done something nice for you, make a note in your mind to practice three acts of kindness towards other people.

WARNINGS :

Most nice things done for strangers will be one-time efforts, so use your head and don't give out name or phone number;

If someone seems to expect you to provide ongoing help but you don't want to go that far, smile and tell the person that you prefer to remain anonymous.

It can feel risky to help strangers, but trust your own good intentions and don't be afraid to go out on a limb if you believe your actions can help the person.

Some people will not act grateful, but the benefits may still come around when you are not there to see it.

Let your beneficial action be enought in intself and don't expect profuse thanks, or even any thanks at all.

Do take care of yourself. If you have excess then shares with those in need, but don't give away your last money. The stronger you are the more good you can do for others.

Even small acts, such as paying the bridge toll for the car behind you when you pay for your own, counts. If it makes the world a friendlier place, you succeeded!

Practicing the "pay it forward" principle will make you alert to unexpected kindness from strangers toward you, and you may find yourself becoming more grateful for everyday kindness and consideration from people you don't even know.

I'm not asking that you leave your home and possesions and join the Peace corps, but wouldn't it be wonderful if you, and everyone around you would commit to do one simple task each day to brighten the life of a friend, or a family member?

let's take a moment to do out part to bring peace to the world.

Paying it forward is a third party beneficiary concept that involves doing something good for someone in response to a good deed done on your behalf or a gift you received.

However, when you pay it forward, you don't repay the person who did something nice for you.

Instead, you do something nice for someone else.

Paying it forward doesn't have to mean giving a large some of money of expending a lot of effort. It could be as simple as holding the door for someone laden with bags or giving up your place in line to someone who appears in a rush.

It could even mean spending a little cash on coffee for the person behind you in line at a coffe house.

For those who have money they can afford to give, there are always people in need, but even the smallest, free gesture can make a difference.

Why I wrote this?

Because, when I was sad and lonely I was not left alone. When I was in need people did not look away.

When I was afraid, people took my hands.

When I could not got forward I was led by friends.

When I lost my way, light was sent to me.

When I needed someone, many were there

And today, it is time to pay forward and that is why I made this for all of you.

"Three big favor for three people, and those three people have to pay it forward to others people. They cannot pay it back. They don't allowed to."

Paying it forward is lending a helping hand to someone in need. It's making a huge difference by doing something small. It's leaving the world a better place than you found it.

1 act of kindness can change everything.

With love,

Meryl Saragih

10 Things I'v Learned about Leadership

Saya yakin setiap dari kita diciptakan untuk dapat menjadi seorang pemimpin entah ditu dalam skala yang kecil maupun skala yang besar. Sebelum kita bisa memimpin orang lain, tentunya kita harus bisa terlebih dahulu memimpin diri kita sendiri. Pemimpin adalah seseorang yang bisa memberi dampak dan mempengaruhi seseorang untuk dapat mengikuti dia. Sekarang pilihannya adalah apakah kita ingin menjadi seorang pemimpin ke arah yang positif atau sebaliknya?

1.      A LEADER KNOWS HIS VISION AND PURPOSE

 “a Leader has toknow where to go in order for the people to follow he leads” artinya seorang pemimpin harus tau tujuan hidupnya, tujuan dari apa yang Ia kerjakan, target dan goal yang harus dikerjakan dan dicapai sehingga orang yang mengikutinya pun tidak bingung dan kehilangan arah dan tujuan. Seorang pemimpin harus dapat mengarahkan yang dipimpinnya.

2.      A LEADER KNOWS HIS VALUE

“a Leader has to know the value of his role, and He has to act like a reader”

seorang pemimpin harus bisa memposisikan dirinya sebagai seorang pemimpin melalui tutur kata dan perbuatannya. Mantan Perdana Menteri Inggris, Margareth Tacher pernah mengatakan “a Leader is like a lady, when a lady walks into a room she never has to announce that she is a lady” artinya adalah bahwa seorang pemimpin tidak harus mengumbar-umbar bahwa Ia adalah seorang pemimpin, tapi ketika Ia berjalan karena “aura” kepemimpinannya ada orang-orang pun akan langsung tau bahwa Ia adalah seorang pemimpin

3.      A LEADER ALWAYS INSPIRE OTHERS

Bedanya pemimpin dengan seorang atasan atau sebut saja manager adalah pemimpin adalah orang yang bisa menjadi inspirasi bagi orang lain untuk dapat melakukan sesuatu hal lebih baik lagi berbeda dengan seorang manager yang hanya memerintah bawahannya saja.

Untuk menjadi seorang pemimpin yang menjadi inspirasi banyak orang, kita juga harus membangun hubungan dengan orang lain, bersosialisasi. Menurut penelitian, 70% dari 24 jam dalam sehari kita lewati bersama orang lain. Sadness and happiness always related with the people around you.

“if we can lead ourselves and the  people around us then we can lead a great number of people”

4.      A LEADER HAS A LONG RANGE PERSPECTIVE

Seorang pemimpin harus memiliki Ultimate Goal dan memiliki strategi untuk melaksanakan dan meraihnya misalnya Plan A, B atau C.

“Think big, do small and start now” artinya kita harus memiliki visi yang besar dan jauh ke depan, dimulai dari hal-hal kecil yang bisa kita lakukan dan mulailah dari sekarang. Selain, itu kita juga harus mengetahui konsekwensi apa yang akan kita hadapai ke depannya apabila kita terus menerus melakukan hal tersebut. “melihat sebuah akhir dari awal”

5.      A LEADER CHALENGING THE STATUS QUO

Seorang pemimpin tidak akan puas begitu saja dengan apa yang sudah diraihnya. Ia selalu ingin berbuat dan mendapatkan yang lebih baik lagi. Ia tidak nyaman berada dalam keadaan yang biasa saja dan berani melangkah dari zona aman menuju zona iman

6.      A LEADER UNDERSTAND THAT LEADERSHIP AS A TEAM

“if there is nobody following you, you are not the leader”

artinya seorang pemimpin pasti memiliki orang-orang yang akan mengikutinya dan saling bekerja sama untuk dapat mencapai sebuah tujuan. Bukan hanya sekedar “one man show”.

“it takes a teamwork to get a dreamwork and it’s also need a good leader”

7.      A LEADER IS ORIGINAL

“A Leader not only just a copycat, they know their identity. Don’t be a copy, but when you do have to copy make sure you copy someone better than you, do it right and make it better”

8.      A LEADER USES EVERY RESOURCES AVAILBLE

Pemimpin tidak merasa bahwa dirinya sendiri dapat melakukan segala hal, Ia membutuhkan orang lain dan hal-hal lain yang bisa digunakan untuk pencapaian tujuannya. Pemimpin yang baik tahu bahwa Ia memerlukan hal-hal lain dan mengelilingin dirinya dengan orang-orang yang membangun dan memiliki kelebihan dari dirinya. Setiap manusia tentunya memiliki kelebihan dan talenta yang berbeda-beda dan kita tentunya dapat saling melengkapi. Misalnya dengan menggunakan teknologi, internet, dll. “We have to be a smart leader and do things smart. Always learn, keep getting better and grab all things you need”

9.      A LEADER UNDERSTANDS A MEANING OF SACRIFICE AND SUFFERING

“membutuhkan pengorbanan dan penderitaan untuk mendapatkan sesuatu yang berharga”

seorang pemimpin tahun betul bahwa untuk mendapatkan sesuatu hal, untuk mencapai suatu tujuan pasti ada “harga yang harus dibayar”

seperti yang tertulis dalam Ibrani 2: 9-10 yang dalam bahasa Inggrisnya ditulis : “Through the suffering of Jesus, God made Him a perfect Leader. One feet to bring them into their salvation”

Jangan Takut diproses, jatuh bangun adalah hal biasa yang akan membawa kita kedalam “level” kehidupan yang lebih tinggi lagi.

Hidup kita ini adalah seperti tangga spiral, mungkin suatu saat kita akan berada di suatu titik vertical yang sama tapi sudah berbeda tingk.

10.  A LEADER ALWAYS WANT TO IMPROVE HIMSELF

“Never stop learning, challenge yourself. We can always be better”

THE HEART OF WORSHIP

Beberapa waktu yang lalu saya diminta oleh department head saya untuk sharing dalam pertemuan bulanan Praise and Worship Team di JPCC. Sekarang, saya ingin membagikan sharing saya tersebut kepada teman-teman semua. Semoga memberkati :)




                                       THE HEART OF WORSHIP


1. WHY I WORSHIP GOD?


Knapa dan kapan sih kita harus menyembah Tuhan? Apa karena kita lagi sedih kita harus menyembah Tuhan? Apa karena kita lagi bersukacita kita baru memuji Tuhan. Apa hanya pada saat mood kita ingin nyembah, baru kita menyembah? Atau setiap saat kita harus memuji dan menyembah Tuhan?


a. WORSHIP IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY. No matter what, we have to praise and worship God. Setiap saat dan kapanpun. Bukan karena ‘sesuatu’.


Kolose 1:16 : Karena di dalam Dialah telah diciptakan sesuatu, yang ada di sorga dan yang ada di bumi, yang kelihatan dan yang tidak kelihatan, baik singgasana, maupun kerajaan, baik pemerintah maupun penguasa; segala sesuatu diciptakan oleh Dia dan untuk Dia.


Yesaya 43:7 : Semua orang yang disebutkan dengan nama-Ku yang Kuciptakan untuk kemuliaan-Ku, yang Kubentuk dan yang juga Kujadikan!




b. WORSHIP IS A COMMAND, not merely a natural instinct.


Matius 4:10 : Maka berkatalah Yesus kepadanya : “Enyahlah, Iblis! Sebab ada tertulis: Engkau harus menyembah Tuhan, Allahmu, dan hanya kepada Dia sajalah engkau berbakti!.”


Mazmur 96:2 : Menyanyilah bagi Tuhan, pujilah nama-Nya, kabarkanlah keselamatan yang dari pada-Nya dari hari ke hari.


c. WORSHIP IS A RESPON. Sebagai respon kita terhadap keagungan, kekuatan yang luar biasa, rahmat dan kasih Allah kepada kita. GOD IS HOLY, LOVING AND WORTHY OF OUR WORSHIP AND DEVOTION.


2. HOW I WORSHIP GOD?


a. MENYEMBAH DALAM ROH DAN KEBENARAN
Menyembah dalam ROH means Our Worship needs to be SPIRIT LED. We cannot worship without HOLY SPIRIT. Menyembah dalam KEBENARAN means : Sikap hati dan motivasi kita menyembah Tuhan harus benar.


YOHANES 4:23-24 : Tetapi saatnya akan datang dan sudah tiba sekarang, bahwa penyembah-penyembah akan menyembah Bapa dalam roh dan kebenaran; sebab Bapa menghendaki penyembah-penyembah demikian. Allah itu Roh dan barangsiapa menyembah Dia, harus menyembah-Nya dalam roh dan kebenaran.”


KITA HARUS TAU SIAPA YANG KITA SEMBAH. DEVELOP a RELATIONSHIP with HIM.
JESUS IS THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE.
Tidak ada seorangpun yang sampai kepada Bapa kalau tidak melalui Dia.


b. The BEST WAY that we can praise and worship God is with EVERY THOUGH AND ACTION.


ROMA 12:2 : Janganlah kamu menjadi serupa dengan dunia ini, tetapi berubahlah oleh pembaharuan budimu, sehingga kamu dapat membedakan manakah kehendak Allah: apa yang baik, yang berkenan kepada Allah dan yang sempurna.


WORSHIP is the EXPRESSION OF LOVE AND AWE TO THE GOD WHO GIVES US MORE THAN WHAT WE DESERVE. EXPRESS YOUR WORSHIP by singing, laying music dancing or in some other way! Remember that you are called to worship God with your action, everyday of your life. GA CUMA SEKEDAR NYANYI. Kita harus memuji dan menyembah Tuhan seperti Raja Daud


3. THE WORSHIP IMPACT


a. HADIRAT TUHAN NYATA


God presence CHANGING OUR LIFE. When we Praise and Worhsip God, we RELEASE THE SUPERNATURAL POWER OF GOD IN OUR LIFE.


Kita menyembah Raja Sgala Raja yang luar biasa, GA MUNGKIN KITA BIASA2 AJA.
A life of praise and worship fills our DEEPEST NEEDS and amazingly, it also BRINGS GREAT JOY TO GOD.


Zefanya 3:17 : Tuhan Allahmu ada di antaramu sebagai pahlawan yang memberi kemenangan. Ia bergirang kerena engkau dengan sukacita, Ia membaharui engkau dalam kasih-Nya, Ia bersorak-sorak karena engkau dengan sorak-sorai




When we praise and worship God. MIRACLE HAPPENS. WE ARE THE PRESSENCE CARRIER. HADIRAT TUHAN NYATA, ORANG DIJAMAH DAN DIPULIHKAN.


Mukzijat Tuhan nyata karena Ia melakukan Bagian-Nya. Each of us have our part. Kita melakukan hal yang tidak bisa Dia lakukan (Memuji, Menyembah dan memuliakan namaNya) dan Dia melakukan hal yang tidak bisa kita lakukan (Mukjizat).


It’s always an amazing honor to know that we are called to worship our God and to dwell in His presence. What sets us apart is the Presence o god!


Blessings,
Meryl Saragih

International Youth Leadership Conference (Behind the Scene)

Last July I got a chance to attend 22nd International Youth Leadership Conference (IYLC) in Prague – Czech Republic. At first I have no clue and any information about this event. I knew it on early April when my Friend, Aurora send a broadcast message (BM) via Blackbaerry Messenger (BBM) asking about the International Relations and United Nations stuff. I usually end chat when it comes to a BM, but since her question is quite interesting for me so I answer her. She asked me some question on some global topics and since I was online at that moment, so I google her question and bang! It refers to a website : www.czechleadership.com. Then we talked about the conference and had some brainstorming about the essay that we have to submit as one of the conference requirements.

I have some friends who had a chance to travel around the world as Indonesia’s representative because of their passion, innovation and achievement in their fields such as Education, Music, Art, Entertainment, Leadership, Sports, Science and so on. I always read their blog and wondering if I could be like them. That’s one of my dream. Attend an International Conference or International Event as Indonesia’s representative, achieve something but it’s not only stop there…I also want to be an impact for others for my generations from what I have achieved. So when this opportunity knock the door, I said : Why not? I’ll give it a try.

I wrote my first essay’s draft on Early April, when I just came back from a short trip to Hongkong. I remember it was April 9, 2011. I have to finished it asap because I have to submit the essay and the application on April 10, 2011. I was trying so hard on the essay’s topic about the framework of the Millenium Project and the social – economic-political issues in Indonesia. I submit the essay and application the early hours on April 10. Praying for a miracle happen so I can fly to Europe, My dream since 2008.

April 14, 2011. On my dad’s bday. First thing I did was get my Blackberry to call my dad, wish him a happy birthday then check my email. I was shocked when I finally I got a notification from the IYLC committee that I pass the selection and got a chance to attend the 22nd IYLC which will be held from July 24-29, 2011. I was so happy and excited I feel like screaming. I email my sister about the good news and I got two different answers. My eldest sister who is famous with her best believe and have faith in others told me that sure I will made it, my second sister who is a typical realistic person told me that I have to check on it carefully, about the term and condition since I have to pay for the conference, flight, insurance, etc by my self. Am a bit confused and discourage at that time, because I have no idea where can I get that amount of money so I can fly to Europe. My parents was so happy to hear the news, but they can not do much at that time because of some reasons.

I contacted the committee many times and asked them some questions and input regarding the conference an on how I can get that amount of money for the conference and asked them information whether there is a sponsorship or scholarship I can get. Thank got the committee was so helpful I can get all the information clearly. :)

I started to make sponsorship proposal. I made it by myself and I remember I didn’t sleep all night long when am working on that proposal. I sent the proposal to some big companies by my self. Day in and day out, I began to worry because it’s almost a month but I haven’t heard anything from the companies and some companies have been rejected my proposal. I was panicked. It was the beginning of may and I have to get a sponsor by June. That day was so hectic and stressful because I cannot apply for my visa if I haven’t buy my ticket, pay the conference and accommodation for my extend in Europe. Moreover, I also have to prepare my trip to Kuala Lumpur and Australia on Mid June-Mid July. So with a grateful heart, I pray and I pray, asking for a miracle, a doors open and God’s favor.

May 2, 2011. My auntie suggested me to meet her old friends, more like her family because they were bestfriend since cihildhood. I have no clue and no idea who is he, but from what my auntie said to me he’s now a very successful man. We decided to have a dinner at Senayan City, along with my auntie. We eat, talked, laughed and finally talked about the main purpose of our meeting, straight to the point. Hahaha. He asked about a bit the conference and I made a short presentation about the conference and gave the proposal. I found out later that his name is Satria Tarigan and he worked for Medco Oil and Gas company.

The next day he bbm me said : “The Proposal is approved. Just wait for the administrative process”. I was driving when I read it and I feel like numb, freezing and am so speechless. It’s as simple as that. They gave me $5200 and it’s more than enough for the conference fee and accommodation and to fly me to Dubai, Prague, Germany and Paris for 3 weeks. Am so thankful. God is so good!

The next step is apply for schengen visa. From what I heard, the process will take about 2-4 weeks from the day your application is accepted. And if your documents is not complete yet, they wont process your visa. It happened to me when I want to apply my visa from Germany Embassy. At first my plan was fly earlier to dussledorf to meet my uncle then we will go to Prague together and start our Europe trip after the conference. But it didn’t work out, my uncle didn’t send me a proper invitation letter so I have to figured out the other way. Then after I did my research and asked about the schengen visa to as many people I can asked, I decided to apply my visa in Czech Republic Embassy.

The Visa Application process was not easy. It wasn’t going smoothly. The Embassy on Visa application section only open 2 days a week, Tuesday and Thursday. The working hours is only from 9am to 12pm and the officer is only one. The first time I arrived at the embassy was at 7PM and I’m number 26 in the queue list. I thought that I was the first person arrived at that day but I was wrong. Even there are some people used a jockey to started queue from 4 am! Crazy. From my basic mathematic skill, I start to predict whether I would get a shot to apply or not. Unfortunately the result is no chance. But, there is always a shot for a faithful person, right? Hahaha. So I spoke with one of the people who were there and he was willing to swap his number with mine. Thanks to you sir, I can applied my visa that day. The last three people before the embassy was closed. For your information, it was 11.30 AM when finally I can proccessed my visa and I was there from 7am. And, the queue system was so bad. They didn’t provide the queue card so we had to organize the queue list our self, and also they didn’t provide the waiting room so we had to waited outiside on the street without any shelter. And they don’t bother about it. Too bad.

The visa application proccess took 2 weeks. And it got me nervous waiting in uncertainity because it was quite possible my visa got declined even thought my documents was complete. And if that happened, I wont get a chance to apply again not because there are rules regulate it, but I wont have time anymore because I have to lear for Kuala Lumpur then Australia.


June 20, 2011. Four days before I left for Kuala Lumpur. Finally, my visa was approved. Thank You Jesus! :)




IYLC Photo Album :
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2338656786282.143815.1245773936&type=3

and

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2351504387464.144421.1245773936&type=3

"UltimateU"

Yeay!
Finally I got my copy! Rene Suhardono latest book : “Your Journey to be the Ultimate U”. I was so happy. Special edition of #UltimateU book signed by @ReneCC. So excited to read it.
I believe it’s gonna be a life changing book.

Gw seneng banget pas tau rene buat buku baru lagi, jadi gw buru-buru ngacir ke gramedia to get my copy. Tapi pas gw muter-muter di rak buku nyari buku baru-nya kok ga ada. Trus gw nanya mas-mas karyawa di grame dia juga ga nemu. Jadilah gw muter-muter setengah jam sampai akhirnya gw nanya ke customer service. Jadi ternyata bukunya itu masih pre-launch. Launching bukunya baru tanggal 13 Desember mendatang. Jd yg mau dapetin buku itu duluan harus inden, atau paling ga ngotot kayak gw sampe nyari banget dan akhirnya dapet juga melalui customer service-nya :D

Rene’s book is one of many books that change my mind set and perspective. Am a fan! Hehe. Buku pertama-nya, “Your Job is not Your Career” menyadarkan gw akan passion gw yang sebenarnya. What I wanna do, what my strength is, what I enjoy the most. I learn to embrace my life, expand my capacity and enlarge my territory. I learn a lot.

Gw ga akan cerita lebih panjang lagi, I want to read the book asap and I want you to get your copy too. Believe me, your life will be change after you read the book.

Go get yours :D

Garuda di Dadaku! Garuda Kebangganku!

Reading Times : 5-7 Minutes

Perjuangan Meryl.

Kemarin, gw dan beberapa orang temen gw nonton final pertandingan sepakbola (Indonesia VS Malaysia) Seagames 2011 di Gelora Bung Karno (GBK). Awalnya gw udah hopeless banget, soalnya temen-temen kampus gw pada ga jelas mau ke GBK atau ga dan ada beberapa orang yang udah janjian bareng keluarganya, ada juga yang tadinya udah fix mau dateng tapi tiba2 ga jelas dan ngebatalin. Padahal gw pengen banget bisa nonton lansgung di GBK. Tiba-tiba pas pagi-pagi gw check bbm ada bbm dari Chandra, temen gw yang ngajakin gw ntn bola di GBK dan dia udah ada tiketnya. Ga mungkin ada jawaban lain selain, IYA MAU BANGET! :D

Kita janjian ketemuan sama temen-temennya dan penjual tiketnya di MC’D STC Senayan Pukul 04.30 PM. Jadi abis gw interview di law firm gw langsung cabut kesana. Tadinya gw mau naik transjakarta aja dari BNI 46, tp berhubung interview-nya selesainya cepat jadi gw bawa mobil kesana. Gw jalan sekitar jam 3-an dan itupun udah macet banget. Gw mau parkir di fx aja ada kali ngantri 45 menit, dan pas mau parkir mereka bilang udah penuh. Tapi gw ngotot aja mau masuk dan Puji Tuhan dapat lot parkir yang oke pulak :D. Nah dari FX gw jalan ke STC, kira-kira 15 menit-lah sekali jalan. Sepanjang gw jalan kaki ke STC jalanan sudah menjadi ‘lautan merah’. Para pendukung Garuda Merah sudah mulai berdatangan. Seru banget! Sesampainya gw di MC’D gw ketemu sama beberapa orang temen Chandra. Kita ngobrol sambil nungguin temennya Chandra yang jualan tiket. Kemarin Chandra udah booking 5 tiket kategori 2 buat kami. Jam hampir menunjukkan jam 6 tapi yg mau jual tiket belum dateng, jd gw sama Chandra berinisiatif untuk langsung nyamperin si penjual tiket itu ke Moestopo sementara yang lainnya jalan duluan ke fx untuk beli aksesoris-aksesoris ‘merah putih’ sekalian nunggu disana.

Sesampainya kita di Moestopo, kita langsung ketemu sama Andre si penjual tiket. Dengan santainya dia bilang,”maaf tiketnya habis, gw udah bilang tadi sama temen lo tiketnya habis tapi gatau deh dia ga sampein ke lo”. Jadi ternyata si Chandra ini mesen tiket dari temennya, nah temennya ini mesen tiket dari orang lain lagi. Lalu terjadilah miss communication. #eaaaaa. Gw udah agak emosi dan BT sih ya sebenernya, kalo emang tiketnya ga ada ya bilang daritadi gitu supaya kita ga perlu nunggui di MC’D dan cape-cape jalan ke Moestopo. Ugh! Tapi yasudahlah, masih ada harapan...berjuang mendapatkan tiket via calo yang pasti harganya sudah melambung tinggi.

Gw sama Chandra jalan ke FX untuk menemui teman-temannya dan menceritakan keadaan yang sebenarnya. Mendadak semua muka berubah dan ga perlu gw tanya lagi karena I feel what they feel. Hahaha…Untungnya kita bertekad untuk tidak hopeless dan harus tetap nonton di GBK. Pokoknya harus dan ga pake tapi dan koma. Gw ada ketemu beberapa temen gw yang udah berusaha nyari tiket via calo di dalam GBK tapi hasilnya nihil. Jadi gw berusaha menelusuri muka-muka penjual tiket di sepanjang trotoar FX dan hasilnya gw dapat bapak-bapak yang jual tiket kategori 1 seharga Rp 200.000,-. Ya walaupun di tiketnya gw baca “NOT FOR SALE” tp gpplah yang penting gw dan temen-temen gw bisa nonton final di GBK. *ngotot*

Kami mulai masuk menelusuri komplek GBK sekitar jam 06.30 PM dan itu sudah sangat amat teramat penuh sesak. Kami masuk dari pintu depan FX yang ternyata itu merujuk pada Gate 7 GBK sementara untuk kategori 1 harus masuk dari Gate 2. Kamipun berusaha berdesak-desakan muter ngelilingi GBK sampai akhirnya tiba di depan Gate 2. Bener-bener gw sauna gratis. Keringetan, Ngos-gos-an dan penuh sesak. Baru kali ini gw mengalami berdesak-desakan yang super banget. Sesampainya di depan Gate-2 pun masih harus berjuang masuk, dorong-dorongan, antrian yang ga jelas dan lain sebagainya. Sampai di atas pun tetap harus berjuang untuk masuk melalui pintu masuk stadiun yang dibuka-nya hanya sekitar 50 cm.

Akhirnyaaaa…..gw dan temen2 gw bisa duduk manis di stadiun sambil menunggu pertandingan. 5 menit sebelum pertandingan tiba-tiba sektor dimana gw dan teman-teman gw duduk dibanjiri oleh orang-orang yang tiba-tiba masuk secara bergelombolan. Gw yakin mereka orang-orang yang menerobos ‘security’ untuk bisa masuk ke stadiun tanpa bayar. Yasudahlah…pertandingan-pun dimulai…



Perjuangan Garuda Muda.

Gw bukanlah orang yang maniak dan pendukung tim sepakbola. Bukan pemerhati sepakbola dan gw juga ga tau menau tentang aturan sepak bola. Tapi, lain hal-nya kalo Garuda Muda (U-23) atau TIMNAS Indonesia yang sedang bertanding, gw pasti mendukung! Menjadi pendukung utama :D

Tepat Pukul 07.25 PM lagu “Indonesia Raya” dikumandangkan di GBK. Kalau liat video-nya di BB gw, gw masih merinding. Bener-bener gw merasakan kesatuan masyarakat indONEsia dalam mendukung Garuda Muda kita. Sorak sorai dukungan seperti “IN-DO-NE-SIA..*plak plak plak plak plak*….Garuda didaku, Garuda Kebangganku..Ku yakin hari ini pasti menang” sarat terdengar sepanjang pertandingan.

Gw sangat terpukau dengan permainan Garuda Muda kita sejak pertandingan di mulai. Semangat mereka, daya juang mereka, kemampuan mereka. Benar-benar gw kasih jempol. Mereka bertahan sampai akhir pertandingan (2X45) dengan skor seri 1-1. Bahakan mereka bertahan sampai pertambahan waktu 2X15 menit. Benar-benar luar biasa. Walaupun di akhir pertandingan (adu pinalti) kita kalah, tapi Garuda Muda berhasil memenangkan hati seluruh rakyat Indonesia. Permainan mereka memang benar-benar bagus dan luar biasa. Garuda Muda tetap yang terbaik. ☺

Gw cuma kecewa sama supporter Indonesia dalam beberapa keadaan. Walaupun pada akhir pertandingan, pada saat Malaysia diumumkan sebagai pemenang semua orang di GBK memberikan tepuk tangan..tapi gw sangat tidak setuju dengan attitude beberapa supporter Indonesia yang menyorakkan “boooooohoooooo” pada waktu Lagu Kebangsaan Malaysia dikumandangkan, setiap kali Malaysia diberi kesempatan untuk corner kick, free kick, dan pada waktu terjadi adu pinalti. Gw juga sangat tidak setuju ketika para supporter bersorak mengatakan “wasit goblok”. Ini adalah pertandingan yang menjunjung sportifitas. Seharusnya para supporter juga harus bersifat sportif tanpa menjatuhkan pihak lain. Sungguh attitude yang sangat tidak baik.

Kemarin gw berpikir, kenapa Indonesia tidak menang? Menurut pendapat gw (CMIIW) kemarin itu Indonesia layak menang. Berdasarkan perjuangan Garuda Muda. Tapi mungkin Tuhan belum mengizinkan itu terjadi untuk mendidik kita WNI belajar ‘unconditionally love’ ( kasih tanpa syarat ) dan ‘true love’ ( kasih sejati) terhadap Garuda Muda. Ga perduli mereka mau menang ataupun kalah kita harus tetap menjadi pendukung yang sejati. Yang kedua, mungkin Indonesia belum diizinkan menang karena kita (WNI dan supporter Garuda Muda dan TIMNAS) belum memiliki ‘kapasitas’ sebagai pemenang. I mean, our attitude. Sikap yang kita tunjukkan belum cukup baik. Mungkin kalau kita menang kita akan makin sombong dan makin menghina, mengejek atau merendahkan Malaysia. Kita harus bisa memperbesar kapasitas hati kita.

Gw berharap dan percaya dan bahkan terlalu percaya suatu saat nanti Garuda Muda akan memenangkan pertandingan melawan Malaysia dan menjadi Juara. Biar mereka menjalani prosesnya satu-satu dan biar waktu yang menjawab ☺